The Ab Fab Collab!

Welcome
to the first ever The Ab Fab Collab!

Through
the wonder that is Twitter I have had the pleasure of getting to know
some fantastic bloggers. And one of those bloggers is Abbey Louisa
Rose. Abbey has recently launched her
blog www.abbeylouisarose.co.uk and
I already think it’s fab.

I
approached Abbey with the concept of doing a blog collaboration. I’ve
not done one before, but there is a first time for everything!

So we
have both written posts about growing up. Abbey’s post is her
reflections of being home schooled and mine is reflecting on where I
am at in my life now I’m in my 30’s.

Please
go check out Abbey’s blog in conjunction with mine and show it some
love.

Growing
pains 


Do
you look at your friends and think, why am I the one that is behind?
I feel that way at times. There are people a good few years younger
than me that are married, kids, house, car, the lot as if it’s the
norm. Maybe to them, but to me I feel I’m trailing behind.

I
think I have always been behind the curve. Even if they shouldn’t, I
think most teenagers discover alcohol in their mid teens, if not
earlier, where I discovered it at the age of 17. My first kiss was at
17 also.

I
wasn’t into wearing making or the latest trends until I was 16. Where
as to me kids are into make up and fashion at quite a young age
knowadays. I had frizzy, unprocessed styled hair and not the best
dress sense for most of my teenage years, but then I didn’t care.

So
yes, I was a late bloomer if today’s standards are anything to go by.

At
the age of 32 I am married, but there are no kids on the radar and
I’ve been renting all my adult life. So some would say I had some
growing up to do.

I
like to think I have a reasonably sensible and mature head on my
shoulders, but lack of life experiences, such as children,
travelling, climbing the career ladder has meant that I haven’t learn
as much as others, so can I call myself completely grown up?

What
is grown up anyway?

Home
Sweet Home?

I
used to hate the idea of getting a mortgage as I liked the freedom of
renting. You could up sticks at any point and not be tied down by
having to work to pay a very large loan off. But of recent years,
maybe it is growing up a little, I have become frustrated of not
having a home of my own, to decorate to my choosing, to have a garden
with a cat and not feel like the landlord could change their mind and
turf you out if they want to sell for example.

Yes
the idea of a mortgage still sounds a bit daunting, but the idea of
my home I think out weighs

that.
But being on a retail wage, living in an expensive part of the UK and
house prices as they are, I don’t know how I’ll ever get on the
property ladder.

I’m
rubbish at saving, which is no help whatsoever, so who knows how I’ll
get my own house.

Also,
I know it’s not a deal breaker but if I was to have a child I would
like to be able to bring them up in a house of our own, not have the
unsuitability of renting. I had to leave our last rented property a
couple of years ago as the land lady has passed away and her family
had to sell her house to pay the inheritance tax. Again no one’s
fault but made me feel for the first time insecure with renting.

I
think for my age, especially as I do look younger than my years, I am
a young 32 year old. As I said, no kids, house etc. I like pink
pretty girly things, have a blog rather than a high flying career and
do not even have a car.

Teenage
kicks

When
I was in my teens I imagined that at my age I would be married
(tick), kids, house with a great job, as I thought that’s the norm of
being ‘grown up’. I’ve read a number of articles in the last couple
of years where it’s actually quite common for 20 and 30 somethings to
move back home to their parents to save money to get their own place.
I guess I’m lucky I have my own space, but then it does come with a
price tag.

But
are these ‘life goals’ a way to unofficially certify that you’ve
grown up? One person’s grown up is another person’s not grown up (not
a great quote Abbie!).

Reflecting
on this, I would say that as long I’m happy and feel like I’m not
missing out and not acting like a stroppy teenager at my age, then
what’s the big deal. I’m just going to carry on being me and see
where life takes me. I guess I’m just young at heart!

I
hope you liked this post and has given you food for thought. Remember
to check out Abbey Louisa Rose’s blog for her take on the same topic
of growing up.

I’d
love to know how you feel about growing up and if you’re like me and
hit the 30 year mark, how that makes you feel. 



Lot’s of love,

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6 Comments

  1. abbeylouisarose
    July 3, 2016 / 7:28 pm

    Can't wait for this! Really exciting to be collaborating with you! I hope everyone else is looking forward to it just as much as I am! ❤️Abbey ✨ http://www.abbeylouisarose.co.uk

    • Abbie Chic
      July 3, 2016 / 7:37 pm

      Hi Abbey. Yup, I'm looking forward to collaborating with you. Should be fun and hopefully a good read for all 🙂 xx

  2. Llinos Thomas
    July 13, 2016 / 7:10 pm

    I loved reading your perspective, I am 29 and in some ways I think I'm quite young for my age (I love unicorns and Disney!) but in other ways life has made me mature (I have had so many health issues that made me grow up quickly).I have a mortgage, a full time job and a car but what does that mean about who I am? Those things don't define us at any age. What I do know is that although I do wonder where time goes, I am glad to be leaving some things in my 20s and plan to be an awesome 30+ year old!

    • Abbie Chic
      July 14, 2016 / 6:28 pm

      Hi LLinos, thank you for your comment. I'm glad I've found a like minded person! I do feel old sometimes, I see teenage girls and think 'how do your parent's let you go out dressed like that?'. Thoughts many an adult has had with the 'youth'! Young at heart but old in so many ways! My best friend hass just had her first child and she is nearly 33, so I guess there is no rush (just yet!) to be fully grown up! xx

  3. Caitlin Crawford
    July 14, 2016 / 4:27 pm

    Great post! I'm here from Abbey Louisa Rose's blog and I loved both of your posts! Really well written and enjoyable! I've followed you on Bloglovin' can't wait to read more of your posts Love from boilersuitbabe.com xxx

    • Abbie Chic
      July 14, 2016 / 6:24 pm

      Hi Caitlin, thanks for stopping by and having a read. I'm happy that you like it! Thanks also for the follow on Bloglovin'. We will keep you posted on when our next collab post goes live next month xx