to the first ever The Ab Fab Collab!
the wonder that is Twitter I have had the pleasure of getting to know
some fantastic bloggers. And one of those bloggers is Abbey Louisa
Rose. Abbey has recently launched her
blog www.abbeylouisarose.co.uk and
I already think it’s fab.
approached Abbey with the concept of doing a blog collaboration. I’ve
not done one before, but there is a first time for everything!
have both written posts about growing up. Abbey’s post is her
reflections of being home schooled and mine is reflecting on where I
am at in my life now I’m in my 30’s.
go check out Abbey’s blog in conjunction with mine and show it some
you look at your friends and think, why am I the one that is behind?
I feel that way at times. There are people a good few years younger
than me that are married, kids, house, car, the lot as if it’s the
norm. Maybe to them, but to me I feel I’m trailing behind.
think I have always been behind the curve. Even if they shouldn’t, I
think most teenagers discover alcohol in their mid teens, if not
earlier, where I discovered it at the age of 17. My first kiss was at
wasn’t into wearing making or the latest trends until I was 16. Where
as to me kids are into make up and fashion at quite a young age
knowadays. I had frizzy, unprocessed styled hair and not the best
dress sense for most of my teenage years, but then I didn’t care.
yes, I was a late bloomer if today’s standards are anything to go by.
the age of 32 I am married, but there are no kids on the radar and
I’ve been renting all my adult life. So some would say I had some
growing up to do.
like to think I have a reasonably sensible and mature head on my
shoulders, but lack of life experiences, such as children,
travelling, climbing the career ladder has meant that I haven’t learn
as much as others, so can I call myself completely grown up?
is grown up anyway?
used to hate the idea of getting a mortgage as I liked the freedom of
renting. You could up sticks at any point and not be tied down by
having to work to pay a very large loan off. But of recent years,
maybe it is growing up a little, I have become frustrated of not
having a home of my own, to decorate to my choosing, to have a garden
with a cat and not feel like the landlord could change their mind and
turf you out if they want to sell for example.
the idea of a mortgage still sounds a bit daunting, but the idea of
my home I think out weighs
But being on a retail wage, living in an expensive part of the UK and
house prices as they are, I don’t know how I’ll ever get on the
rubbish at saving, which is no help whatsoever, so who knows how I’ll
get my own house.
I know it’s not a deal breaker but if I was to have a child I would
like to be able to bring them up in a house of our own, not have the
unsuitability of renting. I had to leave our last rented property a
couple of years ago as the land lady has passed away and her family
had to sell her house to pay the inheritance tax. Again no one’s
fault but made me feel for the first time insecure with renting.
think for my age, especially as I do look younger than my years, I am
a young 32 year old. As I said, no kids, house etc. I like pink
pretty girly things, have a blog rather than a high flying career and
do not even have a car.
I was in my teens I imagined that at my age I would be married
(tick), kids, house with a great job, as I thought that’s the norm of
being ‘grown up’. I’ve read a number of articles in the last couple
of years where it’s actually quite common for 20 and 30 somethings to
move back home to their parents to save money to get their own place.
I guess I’m lucky I have my own space, but then it does come with a
are these ‘life goals’ a way to unofficially certify that you’ve
grown up? One person’s grown up is another person’s not grown up (not
a great quote Abbie!).
on this, I would say that as long I’m happy and feel like I’m not
missing out and not acting like a stroppy teenager at my age, then
what’s the big deal. I’m just going to carry on being me and see
where life takes me. I guess I’m just young at heart!
love to know how you feel about growing up and if you’re like me and
hit the 30 year mark, how that makes you feel.
Lot’s of love,
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