Lend me a friend

I normally post about make up and fashion and homeware too, but I decided for this blog post to get a bit more personal.
Having a blog means I tend to be on social media quite a lot (or where I can fit it in around my day job) engaging with other bloggers and sharing my latest blog posts. And social media by it’s name suggests sociability. Which is great as I can be tucked up in bed of a cold winters evening and chat away to other social media users.

But that is where it ends for me. As beyond the realms of the internet I do not have a close group of friends that I socialise with.

On a day off who do I call to go for a coffee or a bit of retail therapy? The answer is no-one. I don’t want to call myself a loner (not that should be a bad word) but I’m not an out going or overly sociable person.
When I was at school, circa teenage years I did have a couple of best friends and a few other close friends I would hang out with and that was great. But since finishing school we have all gone our separate ways and I have not found many real lasting friendships since then.

I like to think, without blowing my own trumpet, that I am a friendly, caring, thoughtful and generally good person to be friends with but through my own introvertedness and lack of going out I do not mix with like minded people.
That’s why I like blogging as I get to chat to like minded people who I have stuff in common with.
But they are virtual relationships.

Picture from Pixabay

One thing I will add is that I have been in a long term relationship with my now husband for going on 16 years and over the years I would say this has caused me to neglect some closer relationships with friends. Purely by my own doing. In the past I would occasionally get invited out by a friend but I would decline in favour of staying in with my significant other.

I do have one good friend that I have known since playschool who I do try and stay in touch with, but she lives in London so we do not see each other much.

I have got to know people in work over the years too which I did class at one point as friends but then they leave or I left and then you only ever hear from them when they post on Facebook for example. I think I get keen on having a companion that I mistake work place ‘friends’ with real friends.

So back to my point, I am a bit of a lone ranger. I do class my husband as my best friend. But there is room in my life for a friend of two who I can confide in with, be there for and vice versa and share interests with.
I think as you get older friendships do dwindle down to those that really count, but in my case they have dwindled down to almost nothing!

With Taylor Swift hastagging Girl Squad on social media, it only makes me reflect on my current friendships or lack of, and my Girl Squad is me, myself and I.
I’m not writing this post to sound sorry for myself as I tend to bumble along with either myself of hubby in tow and this works well for me. Most of the time!
But there is no doubt that having a girlfriend/s would be nice to have. I don’t think it’s because I smell or am completely unreliable (because I do not/am not), I think I just keep myself to myself and don’t find the opportunities to branch out and find people who I can meet with on a free afternoon, or call up when I need some advice.
Though I will shout out my sister who I will say is defo a friend. But I can count on one hand who I call a real friend.

Picture from Pixabay

Despite this though I have been blessed to know some great people, who though I might not see or be in contact with much these days are a pleasure to know. Such as Jenny, Lucy, Lauren and Cassie.

Perhaps this is the year I make a change and make my own girl squad!
If you can relate to any of my post I would love to hear from you, just so I know I am not a total billy no mates!

Thanks for reading!

Love and hugs,

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  1. Weird One
    January 29, 2017 / 6:55 pm

    You're my best friend. Love you sis xx

    • Abbie Chic
      January 29, 2017 / 7:45 pm

      Ah thanks sis! Love you xxx

  2. Danni young
    January 29, 2017 / 9:00 pm

    That's such a shame that you feel like that. I totally agree that blogging helps build friendships and you should try to see if there are any living in your area you can meet up with! 🙂 xo

    • Abbie Chic
      January 30, 2017 / 7:29 pm

      Hi Danni, I'd love to meet some bloggers in my area. The hunt is on! 🙂 xx

  3. Travis Smith
    September 7, 2017 / 5:44 pm

    Heya! I'm at work surfing around your blog from my new iphone 3gs! Just wanted to say I love reading through your blog and look forward to all your posts! Keep up the fantastic work! all of craigslist

    • Abbie Chic
      September 19, 2017 / 7:22 pm

      Hi Travis! That's so cool. Thanks for checking out my blog. Does make me feel v happy when someone has enjoyed my blog xx

  4. Rachel Beautyandthebird
    January 28, 2018 / 7:50 am

    I can totally relate with this post! Since finishing university most of my friends have gone their separate ways! And I no longer have a group of close knit friends anymore. You’re not alone! Xx

    • Abbie Chic
      January 28, 2018 / 8:40 am

      Hi Rachel. It's comforting for sure to know I'm not alone. I think my problem is I don't go out and socialise to make friends. I tend to be lazy and stay indoors and do virtual socialising online instead. Whilst I enjoy it, it's the same as chatting to a good friend in person. Here's hoping that's something we can change in 2018 xx

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